I have a wonderful Spousal Unit who compliments me so well. I am so lucky. He will tell me I'm pretty etc and "hot." I think he is crazy but so am I!
Now, I saw a comment on a friend's FB page by a MAN who said, "What kind of jerk calls a woman that (hot)?" Really?
Let me tell you...at some point in a woman's life when she ain't 20 or 30 or even (dare I say it) 40, she'd probably kill if some younger guy said she was hot. I have to say, I'm almost hitting a big-0 age and the thought of some younger, good looking guy saying that to me makes me...well....it's very nice. I also think he's probably delusional.
At this point in my life, "Hot" means I did my makeup (spackle??) right, the lighting was extremely good, he needed glasses (and a goodly distance) and my Spanx channeled a 50's era girdle with a a Scotty voice, "I'm giving her all I got, Cap'n!"
As long as it's sincere, "Hot" is a very nice compliment!